“A very real cause of impatience is not experiencing our own view of “how things should be”.
An upbringing as an only child might have created additional challenges with impatience? Why? Because they pretty much got their own way. What do you think? Were there special challenges? In normal human development, if not modified by other early training, a point of view arises that expects others to obey. When they do not, there is an energetic arisal of, if we were less cultivated, we would say “anger”. Isn’t that so? If we were slightly more cultivated, we would call it “irritated”, but since we are so very, very cultivated – we are only “impatient”!
The important point here, is that my personal view of things perhaps is not how everything should be experienced. Understanding a variety of views will help, whether you are dealing with Hospice, dealing with you own mother, family or dear friends, or whether you are dealing with a problem situation of your own doing. Just because you created a situation does not mean that you have to hold a certain point of view that brings up aggressive expectation and its failure, called impatience.” by Domo Geshe Rinpoche
I have been noticing when I get frustrated, irritated, or impatient, it is usually because what is occurring is not what I want to occur or “how I think things should be”. Again I am wanting a particular outcome, and unhappy when that outcome does not occur.
I would be much better off to look at the actual situation and what my options are, and work from that point.
Also looking at the situation from a variety of points of view, can help me to better understand my options.
Have a Wonderful Day!