When we get stressed, we can fall into All or Nothing Thinking (dichotomous thinking). I am beautiful or ugly, perfect or worthless, strong or weak, a success or failure. Rarely are things so black or white. We need to remind ourselves to “stop it” and return to a more careful way of thinking with shades [...]
Love is patient and kind. It wishes for others to be happy. It is uplifting. It fills our heart with light and beautiful music.
We can cultivate love. Every day we can make a deliberate wish for others to be happy. When we see someone we do not know, we can smile at them and silently [...]
Halloween traditionally is the Day of the Dead. Now it has become the Day of Walt Disney. American society is so afraid of death. We dress it up to make it not look real. Death is a real part of life. So this Halloween when we see the skulls, skeletons, tombstones, and other Day of [...]
The traditional folk saying is “An apple a day keeps the doctor away!” We eat healthy foods for good nutrition.
A meditation a day keeps the doctor away! Returning to the state of Being instead of constantly doing is good inner nutrition.
Positive states of mind like love and joy are like veggies for your soul.
How is [...]
“There are no bad people, only good people in poor dynamics.” –DGR
The person is different than the confusion/delusion. They can be separated from it. They can change, grow, and evolve. It is important to see the potential in every living being. It takes us out of judging and criticizing, blaming and shaming, and puts us [...]
Immature vs Mature Love
Immature love connects to the other based on me… my boyfriend, my wife, my child, my friend, my car. The relationship is mostly a projection of yourself onto the other person. You do not actually see or really know them. It can also have a very controlling aspect to it as what [...]
Anger hurts ourselves and others.
Anger directed outward at others does not solve the problem it was directed at long-term. It damages relationships and makes future problem-solving more difficult. We do not need to display anger to represent our view with self respect and assertiveness.
Anger directed inward hurts us physically, emotional, and spiritually. It can lead [...]
Living in the flow of Now.
We waste a great deal of time and energy each day living in the past and future. Ordinary mind loves to analyze over and over again all aspects of our day based on traumas from the past or worries about the future. It has a pushing feel to it, a [...]
Stop Worrying. Worry is useless!
Worry is the most useless life strategy. It pretends to identify a problem but does not work to solve it. It just keeps us going in circles thinking “I have a problem, what am I going to do about it?” We need to stop the worry cycle by [...]
“Everyday think as you wake up, today I am fortunate to have woken up. I am alive, I have a precious human life. I am not going to waste it. I am going to use all my energies to develop myself, to expand my heart out to others, to achieve [...]